A dating coach with 20 years of experience under her belt has revealed why men hoping to score a date using the 'cold approach' could be unsuccessful.
Sydney-based relationship guru Samantha Jayne told Daily Mail about the pitfalls of the resurfaced dating trend after the decline of online apps.
Cold approaching involves going up to a person you've never met before and flirting with the goal of them agreeing to a date.
A new wave of men claiming to be 'disadvantaged' by the current dating pool have been told to head out with the intent of cold approaching and ask as many 'hot' women out as possible, until one eventually says yes.
While Ms Jayne believes the strategy could be good for building confidence, she warned the wrong attitude could end with both parties feeling worse.
'Most people overthink dating and make a mountain out of a molehill,' she said.
'The reality is there is no need to label something as "cold approach". As soon as you give something a label it creates pressure and anxiety and makes it a thing.
'If you see a woman or man you're interested in and you genuinely want to give her a compliment to make him or her feel good with no pressure or outcome, then you are in a better position than worrying about getting their number or going on a date.
'Why? If you don't have the outcome of getting her number in mind or getting on a date it takes the pressure off and eliminates the possibility and fear of rejection.'
Instead, Ms Jayne recommended people focus on learning to compliment strangers without the pressure of dating in mind.
'Simply reframe the connection with a beautiful woman or man that interests you as an opportunity to make him or her feel good,' she said.
'If you also feel a warm reciprocated connection then there's your opportunity to check in and see if they'd like to meet or not. Make no big deal out of it! You'd be surprised how effective this is.'
'Compliments fulfill the human need for validation, social connection and positive self-regard. They light up the reward centre in the brain and this causes the feel-good hormone, dopamine, to be released.'
'When you give compliments it makes both you, the giver, and the receiver feel good.'
The current advice online for people, particularly men, to loiter in busy places with the goal of finding a date could quickly make people uncomfortable.
'Never ever be that weird person visibly walking up and down the mall giving compliments to any random stranger for the sake of it,' Ms Jayne said.
Cold approaching has been advertised on social media as a way for single men to meet 'hot' women
'Not only will that give off a creepy vibe, it will look like you're handing out virtual flyers and give off a stalker vibe.'
'Randomly treating the cold approach like a numbers game is inauthentic and too much. Be selective and consider your value as a person.'
The love guru advised those keen for a date to pay close attention to the other person's body language.
'Be authentic. If you happen to see someone that is of interest organically, try to engage in eye contact followed by a smile and be polite,' she said.
'Read the room. If she is welcoming your smile and eye contact then that's a cue to go further. If she turns her head and body away then that's a cue to let her be.'
'If she looks like she wants to continue, talk to her for a few more moments before saying you need to go to an appointment. If you keep the interaction short and sweet on a high note, it makes her want to know more about you.'
'Tell her you know this is old school and you'd love to continue the conversation with her, but you're running late so if she is interested in catching up exchange numbers or Instagram. If not, just walk away and embrace the moment.'
Rather than targeting people in a random public place, Ms Jayne suggested singles make a greater overall effort to get out more.
Ms Jayne advised against standing in a public place and handing out random compliments in the hopes of a date, as it could come off 'creepy'
'Approaching women randomly needs to be done considerately because if you come on too strong, fast, walk up behind her or be too direct, she may feel threatened. You just never know a person's story or triggers,' she said.
'I know most people are tired of online dating and are looking for options offline. If this is you, think about the type of hobbies and interests that you enjoy and the type of woman you are looking for and where she will be.'
'Dog parks, catching transport on your commute to work, out to lunch. Try a different place if you're working in the city and get coffee at a different coffee shop. Ladies nights are excellent for men to approach women.'
'Dogs are often really great icebreakers so if there is one in her presence or if you have one, focus on the dog not the person.'
If all the above sounds way too daunting, try finding everyday interactions with the other sex where you can build confidence.
'If you are adamant about improving your skills meeting women in real life then practice with zero risk women,' Ms Jayne said.
'Like women at the cashier - she must say hi to you, it's her job!
'Then be more friendly with your local barista, waitress, that older lady and work your way up to the types of women you're interested in dating.'
Ms Jayne encouraged singles to take part in a diverse range of hobbies to find like-minded people
'If your intention is simply to engage and make others feel good your confidence muscle will get bigger and before you know it will be second nature.'
As a last piece of advice, Ms Jayne warned singles against blindly trusting dating advice they see online.
'Just be mindful of dating advice out there on social media,' she said.
'Whilst there is great advice out there, make sure you check out credentials, experience and follow your instincts.'
'If it feels good, do it. If it doesn't, don't.'
'Always be true to yourself and don't change yourself to be someone else; instead be the best version of you.'