It's that time of year again. The time when children are giddy with anticipation, the time when the lights twinkle and you can't find a parking space at the mall to save your life, and time to figure out what to buy your partner for the holiday.
I have an unorthodox suggestion. Give yourself to your partner (and I don't mean with wrapping paper, though that would be a good trick). I mean offering them the gift of time with the best parts of you.
Think about it. The holidays are usually hectic, and we all have issues around them. Our moods change, and sometimes our evil twins come out to cast a Grinch-like shadow over the days. Instead of giving in to your mood, be totally present for your partner and family.
"What that means is simply putting them first. Behave how you know they would prefer, compliment them, and be excited and grateful for any gifts that come your way."
Tell your partner to put their feet up and relax while you prepare the evening meal or at least be their assistant (you can also bring them coffee while they're still in bed in the morning). It may seem like a little thing, but it has a huge impact on the receiving party, and for those of us who are challenged in the kitchen, this gift makes our lives a whole lot easier.
Being totally present for your partner is a gift that only you can give, and it's the type of loving act that keeps on giving. Your partner will remember your kindness for a long time to come, and it will be returned in countless ways.
"This is also a gift that you give to yourself because you will actually feel the love returned."
If you have never chosen to put your own desires aside and unconditionally give to those you love, you've let yourself miss out on one of those things that make life worth living.
So often we give in to our own issues during holiday season. We may even try to act happy when everyone knows we're actually feeling grumpy. Try to put the blues behind you for the day and show up for the ones you love. The added benefit here is that you will feel the positive effects and your mood will lighten.
"If you need further motivation, imagine what it would be like if the one you loved were not around."
We seldom reflect on how fortunate we are to have love in our lives. Spending a little time being appreciative of how fortunate you are fills your heart with desire to give back. Let that desire lead you towards making this truly giving year.
"Being in a loving relationship is a gift."