A woman says her mother-in-law looked through her suitcase prior to her honeymoon -- ultimately coming across a bikini which she criticized as being "revealing."
In a post shared to Reddit, the anonymous woman writes that the night before she and her husband were set to take off for their honeymoon, their in-laws came to wish them goodbye. Her mother-in-law brought along some vitamins for the woman, offering to put them in her suitcase before the trip.
While the woman asked her mother-in-law to place them in a zipped pocket, she instead went through the entire suitcase, coming across "a fairly revealing bikini I had bought for this occasion."
"She asked me if I was really planning on taking this along, I kind of lost my cool because I was embarrassed and said please don't go through our private stuff it's rude and ill-mannered," she writes. "She then said a honeymoon doesn't have to mean that I wear revealing clothes on public beaches (we're Muslim and she's a bit more conservative I guess). I said our relationship and our honeymoon is our own and not for her to comment on."
She adds that her mother-in-law likely had "a misplaced idea of mine and my husband's relationship" prior to their marriage, as they never told their families they were in a physical relationship.
"She was very affronted by what I said, and said I'm the one who didn't have manners, that all she wanted to do was help. My husband talked to her in private and tried to explain that I felt violated even if she meant well," she writes.
The post continues: "The mood had soured, and my in-laws wished us a good trip and left soon after. My husband said I shouldn't have let her near the suitcase at all if this was the case, and that while he had spoken to her about boundaries, I shouldn't have reacted without thinking. We decided to not let this affect our honeymoon and we didn't talk about it again."
Other Reddit users are siding with the poster, with one writing, "There's no excuse for rifling through someone's stuff. You had every right to set that boundary."
Added another: "Going through your things was her goal all along. It looks like she's going to be on your case from now on. Be prepared for it and your husband needs to always have your back. If he can't, or won't, stand up to his mother, please rethink your marriage."