'I lost everything' - Jersey man on drink and drug struggles

'I lost everything' - Jersey man on drink and drug struggles
Source: BBC

A man who "lost everything" has opened up about his struggles with issues like drink and drugs in a bid to help others who might be facing similar problems.

Ross Powell said he was "bankrupted basically" after he was fined in court for being caught with drugs in June 2024 when substance abuse was a major part of his life.

The 31-year-old said he thought "if I don't change something soon, I don't know how bad it can get" and "I didn't want to be around anymore, let alone dealing with these continuous issues, so that was my more or less my turning point".

He said he got the support he needed and now provides mental health support to others who are struggling through the Lifeline Group.

Mr Powell said "whether it was drugs, alcohol, pornography, women, all these distractions that are put in front of us in life, I failed to resist" and that led to "a point of despair where I was losing everything".

He said: "Once you create that proof and you start seeing your life take an upturn, you don't look backwards and you never hear anyone say they regret giving up alcohol or regret giving up drugs.
"Mentally - I don't suffer with anxiety and I have no depression but I have my down days like we all do because we're human beings however now I'm in a job that fulfils my purpose too."

Mr Powell said his girlfriend and mother played crucial roles in helping his recovery.

Laura Bechelet started seeing Mr Powell on and off five years ago when he was struggling and now the couple said they have been in a healthy relationship for the past two years thanks to his recovery.

She said "his life was about partying, drinking and drugs" when they met and "it's been a huge transformation that I never thought could ever happen in someone".

"We had this beautiful connection but in some ways it was very toxic and unhealthy so the fact that he's transformed himself means that I now get to experience him in his greatest self and I’m so grateful for that," Ms Bechelet added.

Running was also a part of Mr Powell's recovery: "Running for me was the purest form of hard work."

He said: "It opened up my eyes to a better version of myself."

"Sometimes I pinch myself because I think it was the snowball moment when you change something small like diet and then it gets bigger and bigger."

Mr Powell wanted to run around Jersey twice and as part of a 100 mile challenge (160.9km) for a Movember fundraising campaign.

But a knee injury forced him to stop at the 68-mile mark (109.4km).

He plans to attempt the challenge again after he has recovered in January.

Mr Powell said the "the highs and lows" of ultramarathon running were a good analogy for his life and "you find in it the gratitude for the smaller things in life and the people you have".

There is advice and support on adult mental health services on the government's website.

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