Traveller sparks debate over 'outdated' airport act: 'Triggers people'

Traveller sparks debate over 'outdated' airport act: 'Triggers people'
Source: Daily Mail Online

A traveller has shared an unpopular theory about airport commuting - and it's fiercely divided people.

Dr Sanam Hafeez posted a video about the expectations some people seem to have around being picked up and dropped off at the airport by loved ones.

'So this is definitely going to trigger some people,' she said at the start of the controversial clip.

'I think you shouldn't be expecting family and friends to drop you at the airport or pick you up when you come back from a vacation.'

The New York City-based mother further explained: 'I feel like if you can spend the money on a vacation, you can spend money on an Uber or a Lyft.'

Dr Hafeez elaborated in the video that she felt putting the airport transport obligation onto your loved ones was 'outdated, nostalgic' and 'archaic' - and also a throwback to 'back in the day when people took a vacation once every few years'.

'In this day and age, I still know people who act like it's someone else's obligation to bring them to the airport,' she continued. 'Like dude, you're going on vacation - spring for an Uber.'

Dr Hafeez did, however, clarify in the comments that there are a few notable exceptions - such as when you're transporting parents or elderly people. Another exception is if you are picking up or dropping off guests who are specifically travelling to come and visit you.

But if it's simply a case of people flying to and from their own hometown, Dr Hafeez doubled down: it makes no sense to burden someone else.

Over 100,000 people have viewed the doctor's take shared on her @drsanamhafeez Instagram account - and the replies were deeply split.

On one side, a strong chorus felt Dr Hafeez had finally voiced an opinion they'd long held quietly.

'Preach, sister,' wrote one reply. Another echoed, 'Amen lady.'

One lengthy response noted: 'It has always astounded me that a holidaymaker's paid $500+ for a plane ticket, $1,500+ on a hotel, $1,000 on food - but $100 to park or Uber is somehow a deal breaker, when you're really just transferring that cost in gas, time and inconvenience to someone else.'

'Agree - if you can afford the vacation, you can afford the transportation,' said another.
'We always take a cab to and from the airport and consider it part of our trip cost,' one person added.

Another person said: 'I cannot stand the thought of inconveniencing people. And sometimes flights come back at 3am. Let’s be real, no one wants to go to the airport at that time.'

Some pointed out that Ubers and taxis aren't even the only options these days - you can take advantage of long-term airport parking or take budget-friendly public transport.

One reply said: 'We always leave our car at the airport and it's there waiting when we return. People have better things to do than spend two hours driving to drop and pick you up.'

Quite a few replies also resonated with Dr Hafeez's observation that the obligation to be dropped off and picked up is a hangover from the old days of airline travel.

'Back in the 70s and 80s when people could walk you to your gate and hang out with you till you boarded, it was kind of an event,' one person explained. 'Now it’s shuttling through traffic and stress to just drop and go.'

Another added: 'When vacations were once every few years, that was fine. Now, people are taking multiple holidays a year! How can anyone feel entitled to interrupt other people's working days and expect them to drop off or pick up when things like Uber exist?'

Even those who had regularly ferried friends and family to the airport admitted they were over the chore.

'I must have dropped off and picked up over 100 times. While they saved a little money, I lost half a day every time.'
'It is an inconvenience and entitled behaviour,' agreed another.

Many replies to the video were firmly on the woman's side, explaining that they would always arrange their own Uber, taxi or other transport method - rather than burden family.

But on the other side of this debate were people who felt just as strongly that it's entirely acceptable to expect lifts to and from the airport from loved ones as a gesture of love and care.

'Some people actually love seeing their friends and family off and welcoming them home,' one person claimed.
'[This] lady doesn't know the difference between "obligation" and "love" for family and friends,' argued another.
'It's called lending a helping hand. It's called love. Anything you do for anyone is not about obligation - you do it out of kindness and love for that person,' one person wrote.
Another shared: 'On my last vacation not only did we have rides back and forth, we also had a meal ready for us when we got back - because although a vacation is a privilege and blessing, you still come back tired!'

Several insisted that transporting a loved one to or from the airport had nothing to do with money or time out of their day.

'It's just a kindness to drop off or pick someone up.'
'I'm never asked, I offer to do it because I care.'
'I happily take and pick up friends and family because it’s nice for them. With the chaos at any airport, how nice is it to give someone a warm hug before or after they go?'

Quite a few replies along these lines felt it pointed to broader changes in community values.

'For me it’s not the cost of the Uber, it’s having a larger community to come back to,' one explained, adding that 'we've always had taxis'.
'It’s about putting your time and energy above money. It’s being excited to hear about your loved one’s vacation.'
Another simply questioned: 'Whatever happened to community, friends and family being there for each other?'